I have since reactivated LiteNetLib, I still have SteamNetworking disabled. I have verified that my port forwarding works as someone in a different house was able to connect to the port and I saw the traffic using a port sniffer. For some reason I still do not see the server listed.
My friend who was helping also informed me I should be using my local IP when on the same network, so I tried that and now I get "Server is still initializing, please try again in a minute." The server has been up and running overnight and all day. It should be more than done. The server log output tells me this when I connect using my local IP:
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.026 INF NET: LiteNetLib: Connect from: 192.168.1.156:51679
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.027 INF Started thread NCS_Reader_0_0
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.027 INF Started thread NCS_Writer_0_0
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.028 INF Started thread NCS_Reader_0_1
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.028 INF Started thread NCS_Writer_0_1
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.028 INF [NET] PlayerConnected EntityID=-1, PltfmId='Local_<none>', CrossId='<unknown/none>', OwnerID='<unknown/none>', PlayerName=''
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.071 INF NPPL.Read
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.114 INF PlayerLogin: DaveKerk/Alpha 20.6
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.114 INF Client IP: 192.168.1.156
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.114 INF [Auth] PlayerName authorization successful: EntityID=-1, PltfmId='Steam_76561198046209397', CrossId='EOS_00029a6184f74d1c9b20c9b8cf09aea1', OwnerID='<unknown/none>', PlayerName='DaveKerk'
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.114 INF [Auth] ServerState authorization failed: EntityID=-1, PltfmId='Steam_76561198046209397', CrossId='EOS_00029a6184f74d1c9b20c9b8cf09aea1', OwnerID='<unknown/none>', PlayerName='DaveKerk'
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.114 INF Kicking player (Server is still initializing): EntityID=-1, PltfmId='Steam_76561198046209397', CrossId='EOS_00029a6184f74d1c9b20c9b8cf09aea1', OwnerID='<unknown/none>', PlayerName='DaveKerk'
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.164 INF NET: LiteNetLib: Client disconnect from: 192.168.1.156:51679 (RemoteConnectionClose)
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.164 INF [NET] PlayerDisconnected EntityID=-1, PltfmId='Steam_76561198046209397', CrossId='EOS_00029a6184f74d1c9b20c9b8cf09aea1', OwnerID='<unknown/none>', PlayerName='DaveKerk'
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.164 INF Player disconnected: EntityID=-1, PltfmId='Steam_76561198046209397', CrossId='EOS_00029a6184f74d1c9b20c9b8cf09aea1', OwnerID='<unknown/none>', PlayerName='DaveKerk'
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.165 INF Exited thread NCS_Reader_0_0
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.165 INF Exited thread NCS_Writer_0_1
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.165 INF Exited thread NCS_Writer_0_0
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.166 INF Exited thread NCS_Reader_0_1
2023-02-10T00:56:10 20679.213 ERR [EOS] Failed unregistering player in session: NotFound
2023-02-10T00:56:11 20679.615 ERR DisconnectClient: Player EOS_00029a6184f74d1c9b20c9b8cf09aea1 not found